i carry your heart with me(i carry it in i carry your heart with me(i carry it in my heart)i am never without it(anywhere i go you go,my dear;and whatever is done by only me is your doing,my darling) i fear no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true) and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant and whatever a sun will always sing is you here is the deepest secret nobody knows (here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows higher than soul can hope or mind can hide) and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart) —e.e. cummings
Leslie had been reading a eulogy by Dr. Lissa Rankin for her mother and it made her think of when we are all faced with losing a loved one. Whether it is a best friend, a parent, a spouse or someone that is close to you in ways that cannot be explained.
When someone leaves suddenly, it seems like they are taken from your very essence. How you choose to deal with the after effects of having someone leave you to our own thoughts and feelings and survival instincts is in many ways brought through you by your own learning experiences and observing and being with those that you love and cherish.
It is you, the ones that are left behind that need to listen to your own hearts and what you hear whispering in your ears. You may have had a wonderful childhood, or a childhood that was a mixed bag of emotions and learning experiences. Whatever the circumstances are/were, you still have the innate ability to flourish or to flounder. It is through your own knowledge base of understanding how to navigate through life and to fill your needs, wants, and desires, and by using the information that you have been given by living life and making the most of any given situation that can make the difference.
It is you, the ones that are left behind, who must continue to make choices and continue to grow and continue to understand that life is indeed a playground full of all kinds of individuals. You can choose to react to circumstances in a way that can be detrimental to your own well-being, or you can choose to learn from the experiences and to allow yourselves to be able to determine for yourselves how you want to survive or deprive yourselves of love for self.
Dear ones, it is always your choice. Love unconditionally and embrace all of life’s experiences, for that is what makes you the unique individual that you have chosen to be.
Live your life with grace and ease and by loving yourself and others unconditionally.